Preschool and Homeschooling

Pierce will be 3 next week and I hear people around me talking about preschool already. Why? What’s the rush? Why do parents feel the need to get the child out of the home and into school at 3 years old? Isn’t home supposed to be the ultimate learning zone? Are parents just anxious to push the child to get ahead by putting him in school earlier? The child should be learning everything at home that they would at a preschool.

I’ve heard the “she/he needs the social learning” excuse. Maybe some kids do. But, in general, they should be learning how to share toys, take turns, talk nicely, sit still, etc., from their parents. Then it’s simply second nature.

I’ve also heard “it’s structure that my child needs from a classroom”. HUH? Teaching structure starts at birth. It’s called a schedule. A child wakes up, eats breakfast, maybe watches a favorite show (besides Spongebob), plays with mom or dad, then it’s snacktime then naptime. Nap’s over; lunch, clean-up if the room/house needs it, outside play, inside crafts/learning, then dinner. Dinner’s over, then play with family, and bedtime routine. Each of my older kids has thrived on these types of schedules and can predict how their own day will go. Routine and structure provide security and stability, and therefore, a happy and independent child.

“What about learning numbers, shapes, colors, math, and alphabet?” Well, as a parent, we should know all these things; we pass them on to our children. Pierce knows his alphabet, his colors, can count to 15, backwards from 5, up to 10 in Spanish, his shapes and a few other words in Spanish and Chinese. He also knows how to clean his room by himself. He didn’t learn on his own. As a family, we’ve taught him these things.  We’re in the process of teaching him math.

I’m not bragging; I’m proving a point. That’s why he won’t be going to school until Kindergarten and maybe not even then.  Paul and I have toyed with the idea of homeschooling for a couple years. I believe that it very much depends on the child’s readiness to sit and focus. Typically it’s later in boys than girls. And there’s pros and cons to it as well as many “if..” scenarios. If I, as a parent, am determined to do it. If the schools don’t pass my inspection. If my child doesn’t drive me crazy! 😛

I don’t think homeschooling is for everyone, just like preschool isn’t for everyone. Each is an alternative. I don’t think someone is a bad parent for putting their child in preschool. I do know, though, that I’m going to keep my little kids at home and little for as long as possible.

Coincidence?

I find this very interesting, though I don’t really believe in coincidences. I totally believe things happen and we meet people for reasons; everything has its purpose in life and we just need to find it.

Anyway…my pregnancy with my #1 was easy. Not a lot of pains, morning sickness was over everyday at the same time, etc. And she was an easy baby; slept like a rock, her feedings were like clockwork, she slept well in the car.

The pregnancy with #2 was more difficult. I attributed that to my being 7 years older than the first time around. Morning sickness was bad, I had heartburn, my back hurt badly, I was exhausted, you name it! He turned out to be a difficult baby; colic, didn’t sleep well at all, spit up like a faucet, was jaundiced, cradle cap, and the list goes on.

Pregnancy #3 was easy. Much like #1, so it wasn’t about my age. I was tired here and there, but not bad and the morning sickness was very tolerable. Baby is easy and totally mellow. He’s only woken up once a night from birth (crazy, I know!) and is sleeping through the night (technically-7 hrs) at 5 weeks old.

So….coincidence? Does ease of pregnancy coincide with ease of baby?  Only one way to find out…have a dozen kids and keep score!

I’ll just continue to wonder.

So not ready for the beach!

I am very ready for a vacation but my body is not beach ready! Next week we’re heading to the Outer Banks for a week on the beach. It’s been a traditional vacation spot in Paul’s family since he was a kid and luckily I get to tag along.

I wasn’t planning on going this year; Paul and I had decided he would take the 2 older kids and I would stay home with the baby. I remember taking Pierce to Wisconsin for a few days and it was not the most pleasant trip we’d had.  He was a difficult baby and cried much of the time; the 11-hour drive was exhausting. So knowing I would be 4 weeks post-partum, I knew it would be best to stay home for multiple reasons. (can you say “hormones”??)

But things have a way of changing!! Dean came 2 weeks early and is a very easy little guy. I began to think about missing out on watching Pierce and Gab play and the wheels in my mind began to turn. Of course, Paul was all for me changing my mind. He wanted me there the whole time, but supported my decision to stay. But then another issue came up; my parents would be bringing Gab home (from her vacation w/them) and I couldn’t just turn around and leave them here. Luckily Paul’s parents invited them to come, so problem solved.

Ok, so that’s the background. Back to the point. I still have 15 pounds to lose!! I was a regular gym rat before baby came along and was in fairly decent shape. Babies have a way of changing things 😀  Luckily I can squeeze into my swimsuit and I found some good self-tanning cream to help with my blinding-white legs.

So while I still may scare many small children, and give the older folks heart attacks, I’m looking forward to a much-needed vacation!

Managing headaches

One of the great perks of being pregnant (for me, anyway) is not having headaches for 6 months in the second and (mostly) third trimesters.  Then the pregnancy ends and the headaches come back. Why? No one knows. It’s the great mystery in my life. Headaches/migraines started when I was 16.

“Have you seen a doctor?” Of course. A couple times. They found no reason for my problem.

“Didn’t they give you any medication?” Yes; the most-prescribed one for headaches/migraines. An anti-seizure med that was great in helping me lose weight, but also made my hands tingle and go numb. It worked for about a week then it quit. So the doctor upped my dosage. Then it worked very well for a couple weeks. Then it quit. That happened a few times until I finally quit the drug altogether. I didn’t see the point in staying on a drug if it didn’t work.

So now I’m not pregnant anymore and the headaches are back. Every day. It’s really more annoying than anything…being in constant pain and soreness in my head gets old. Paul and my mom keep pushing me to “go see a specialist; find someone who knows what they’re doing”.  I know I really should but it just sounds so lame…”Yeah, I have a headache.” I don’t want to be a drug guinea pig.

The whole situation is quite ridiculous!  Just a vent  🙂

Girl’s Night

On a message board I hang out on, one of the girls mentioned girl’s nights and going out. I realized that’s just not something I’ve done in a long, long time. I have a lot of friends at church and the gym, but no one I hang out with for fun. Pathetic and sad, yes, it is.

So I came up with the idea of having a Girl’s Night In party at my house. I’ll kick Paul and the boys out of the house (Gab’s already out for another week and a half) and have some fun! I invited some of the ladies at church–the ones that don’t socialize either b/c of small kids at home. We’re going to eat pizza, play games and just be kinda goofy. Stuff stay-at-home-moms don’t do often with others. I’ve already made my menu: the previously-mentioned pizza (1bought and 1healthy homemade version of bacon cheeseburger on whole wheat crust), veggies and dip, punch, and dessert. I’m looking forward to the dessert (of course). It’s that mud pie stuff, but I’m going to layer it (pudding, cool whip, crushed cookies) in carved crystal, long-stemmed glasses. That way it’s luscious and lovely 😀

Then I’ll get back on the treadmill Saturday to work off all the calories. *sigh*

And so it begins!!

Paul came to me a couple days ago with the idea of a blog. I kinda thought “Why me” but the more he talked about it the more I got into it.

He said if I tried hard enough (if??) I could even earn a few bucks! Wa-hoo, spending money!!  Apparently there’s sites you can check out that help you; they find advertisers and products to review then get paid for it. He told me one of the ones to get on is www.payperpost.com which is supposed to be one of the biggest and easiest.  We’ll see how that goes! It looks easy enough (hopefully I won’t mess anything up!) so I have hope.  And so my blog begins…